Reconcilable Differences

Today we celebrate Abraham Lincoln’s birthday.
Before he was president, Lincoln was a very successful lawyer who represented a variety of clients,
including railroads, and he won many cases. Here is what he said about litigation:

“Discourage litigation. Persuade your neighbors to compromise whenever you can.”

compromise in divorce mediationAbbie and Jorge came to me when they wanted to get a divorce through mediation. They had been married for 15 years. They had 2 young children, ages 7 and 9. Jorge worked in a civil service agency and earned about $60,000 per year. Abbie had a part time job in a hair salon and earned about $25,000 annually.

At their first mediation appointment, Abbie and Jorge they told me that when they first married they bought a brownstone “fixer upper” in a rather undesirable neighborhood. Over the years they slowly fixed up the house using a combination of their own “sweat equity” and paid contractors. Meanwhile, their neighborhood became extremely desirable, and since their mortgage had been a 15 year mortgage, they now owned their house “free and clear”.

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