Michael Stokamer, Attorney & Accredited Mediator, helps separating and divorcing couples, in NYC or New Jersey, resolve their differences peacefully and with dignity using Legal Separation & Divorce Mediation or Collaborative Divorce.
The couple receives the help and guidance they need to craft the agreement that is best for them and best for their children, rather than having one imposed upon them by a lawyer or judge. A further advantage is that costs are reasonable, whether seeking a Legal Separation or Divorce.
The separating or divorcing couple that chooses mediation makes all decisions with the help of a professional, accredited mediator. Through Mediation, they can decide about:
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In this option, the Husband and Wife each hire their own specially trained Collaborative Lawyer to help work out solutions. The lawyers sign an agreement not to go to court, but rather to help the couple discuss all issues and help them agree on what is best for the family. If either the husband or the wife chooses to go to court, both lawyers must withdraw from the case and the couple will have to retain other, litigating attorneys.
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Divorce is the second most stressful event in life, second only to the death of an immediate family member. The end of the relationship in the form of a legal separation or divorce can be the beginning of devastating and traumatic emotions, changes in lifestyle and financial status, and experience with unfamiliar legal processes and principles.
My goal is to help couples seeking a legal separation or divorce who want to avoid prolonged conflict and reach solutions that work for them and their families without the intervention of courts or judges. I do that by guiding couples, step by step, through the decision making necessary for a legal separation or divorce process; by helping them understand the issues, the law, and the process that can enable them to reach acceptable agreements; and by working with them on what is most important: to minimize the financial and emotional expense of the separation or divorce experience and to reach child-centered agreements that work best for the entire family.
My goal is to help couples seeking a legal separation or divorce who want to avoid prolonged conflict and reach solutions that work for them and their families without the intervention of courts or judges.
The old way of seeking a Divorce or Legal Separation, hiring lawyers to engage in divorce litigation in court, is financially and emotionally expensive and time consuming. It polarizes the parties and does nothing to help communication or solve issues such as child custody, child support, alimony (also called maintenance or spousal support), nor does it help families develop parenting plans that serve the best interests of the children.
Those people who think that courts will make the right decisions and secure a better financial settlement for their families are most often wrong.
Those people who think that courts will make the right decisions and secure a better financial settlement for their families are most often wrong. Most often the litigation process fails to meet families' needs or expectations, with costs rising out of control, and relationships destroyed.
Separating or divorcing couples can successfully adjust to the realities of their new situation, reach sensible financial settlements, find child-centered solutions, preserve relationships and move on with their lives without litigation. Through the non-adversarial processes of Divorce Mediation, Legal Separation Mediation, or Collaborative Divorce Law, you and your spouse can tailor a legal separation agreement that works for you and your family after a separation or divorce.
Separating or divorcing couples can successfully adjust to the realities of their new situation, reach sensible financial settlements, find child-centered solutions, preserve relationships and move on with their lives without litigation.
I’m Mike Stokamer, Accredited Mediator & Collaborative Attorney. I have offices in both Manhattan, and Bergen County NJ. Give me a call today and we’ll discuss your options for a less stressful, more amicable, and lower cost legal separation or divorce.
Michael helps his divorcing clients seek and find sensible and creative solutions to their problems. Whatever the issue, Mike can help you work things out.Get In Touch